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The surprising reason you’re a night owl
Being a night owl can be a serious obstacle for success in work and life. Why does everything have to start so god damn EARLY?! That horrible feeling of hearing the alarm in the distance, calling you to leave your sweet dreams, when your exhausted body cries for mercy, since you once again went to bed “too late” according to societies standards…. Wheater you’re a night owl or “lark” is often an important part of your identity, and I once read an interview with a lady running a dating company who claimed this was one of the more important things to get right for a successfull match making. Funnily, though,…
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Not enough willpower? This seemingly crazy thing could fix it!
Willpower is often considered the magic quality that separates winners from losers – the thing that makes you stick to your goals and help you say yes to hard work and no to those cookies. In order to succeed we “just” need willpower. But what is it really, and how can we get more of it? I’ve recently discovered that willpower seems to have little to do with character or mental training – and a LOT to do with what we eat. But the solution is not about following a calorie depraved, supposedly “healthy” diet, as you might expect. The depressing cycle It’s funny, isn’t it, how those goals…
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How to get un-stuck
Feeling stuck? I’ve recently found that tweaking a well-known morning practice can help you get un-stuck in no time. The best part? You don’t even have to get out of bed! Winston Churchill is supposed to have said that the best way to make something difficult is to postpone it. Whether it was him or someone else, for me it stands as one of the truest things ever said. Still I make the same mistake over and over again – I decide that the best time to do something is TOMORROW. Now unfortunately, the next day I tend to come to the same conclusion, and for every day that passes…
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What to do when life sucks
Sometimes, everything is just crap. Plain and simple. You don’t get the results you want at work – or you can’t seem to find a job no matter how hard you try, you feel stuck in your relationship – or every date you go on turns out to be a disaster, everybody wants something from you and there’s no time to do what you really want, your home looks like a mess, the kids are screaming, and on top of that, you’re out of toilet paper. When you feel like this, it doesn’t help much that the sun is shining and the birds are twittering. All you want to do…
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Why having fun could literally save your life
It’s funny, isn’t it, how hard it can be to cut out time for having fun. While looking at that overwhelming to-do list, spending time on a hobby, or even meeting up with a friend, can feel like a total waste of time. For sure you should be doing something more important, something more URGENT, right? In one of the lovely children’s books about the little boy Alfie Atkins (Swedish: Alfons Åberg) Alfie’s father keeps asking his son why he “always has to act so childish”. Alfie, in return, ask his father why he always has to act so “grown-uppish”. In this particular story, Alfie manages to persuade his father to forget about…
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No energy to do all those things that really should be fun? Here’s what might be missing.
You have so many ideas about things you would like to do – but when the daily duties are done, you’re too tired to even think about getting creative by picking up that instrument, working on your website, doing a bit of crafting, or whatever it is you’re planning and dreaming about. For anyone having to handle the challenges of everyday life – caring for a family, earning a living, commuting…. it can feel impossible to fit in those OTHER things we also want to do. And for multi-passionate scanners it’s even more difficult – since we want to do SO MUCH! It’s easy to feel frustrated & disappointed. But…
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The #1 question to ask yourself to make the best of the new year
I know it’s a lot of talk about how to have a successful new year these days. And the tips provided typically deals with the importance of setting up goals for your health or career, and how to stick with them. And I’m sure you know it all in theory. But still the same happens again and again: The commitment to your New Years Resolutions about how to improve your life, made during the inspiring influence of champagne and fireworks, starts to fade as soon as every day life kicks in again. Sure, you would like to start exercising, or eat healthier, or look for a new job, but right now…
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How you can find strength behind your fear
Is it possible to find strength or even peace and love hiding behind your fear? Actually yes, that´s what I discovered today, and I´m excited to tell you how! There are many kinds of fear, of course. The person who is not afraid of a raging bear will not stay alive very long. Fear is there to protect us, to make sure we don´t do anything stupid that will risk our lives. But, if you´re like most people I know, it´s not the fear of heights or wild animals that is mostly present in your life. It´s something much more subtile – very often you might not even be…
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Prison break for perfectionists – a first aid guide
Have you ever experienced that your ambition to do a really good job actually becomes a problem, since your fear for making mistakes forces you to spend much more time than people around you for the same task – or even blocks you from making decisions or taking action? If so, you are far from alone. I sincerely believe that perfectionism is one of the most common reasons for people to be stuck and unsatisfied, and that it causes depressions, burn-outs, and a lot of other health problems, effectively preventing a lot of people from living fulfilling lives. (if you´re not sure wheter you´re a perfectionist, first turn over to…
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How do you know which one of your inner voices you should listen to?
When you want to live life on your own terms, there is one thing that often will cause confusion: our different inner voices. Very often, there will be one voice saying “I want to!” while at the same time, another voice is saying no. And the worst thing is, these voices change over time, so maybe when you first get an idea, it feels totally right, and you´re very exited, but when it starts to get time for action, resistance gets very powerful, telling you it´s too hard, or you´re not good enough or that it´s actually not very interesting what you decided to do. It might even tell you…
